Resources

The following is a rather extensive list of self-help books to aid in your search for answers to the various challenges you face in your personal life and in your inter-personal relationships.  While they certainly contain good information, it is important to remember that they do not take the place of specialized counseling with a trained Christian professional.

SPECIAL NOTICE

A guide to internet safety for teens:  www.staysafe.org/teens/

ADDICTIONS

ALCOHOL and DRUG ADDICTION 

http://www.withdrawal.net/resources/withdrawal/reno-nv

http://www.treatment4addiction.com/rehab/nevada/reno/

http://www.alcoholTreatment.net

MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIPS

  • Marriage and Family, Dennis Rainey
  • The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, John Gottman
  • Love and Respect, Emerson Eggerichs
  • The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate, Gary Chapman
  • Making Love Last Forever, Gary Smalley
  • Boundaries in Marriage, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend
  • Relationships, Gary Smalley and John Trent
  • As For Me and My House: Crafting Your Marriage to Last, Walter Wangerin
  • Loving Your Marriage Enough to Protect It, Jerry Jenkins
  • Hidden Keys of a Loving Lasting Marriage, Gary Smalley
  • Created to be a helpmeet, Debi  Pearal
  • Created to need a helpmeet, Michael Pearl
  • Torn Asunder Workbook: Recovering from Extramarital Affairs, Dave Carder
  • Surviving an Affair, Willard Harley
  • Affairs: Emergency Tactics from Discovery to Recovery, Carol Rhodes
  • When Bad Things Happen to Good Marriages; How to Stay Together When Life
  • Pulls You Apart, Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott
  • Angry Men and the Women Who Love Them: Breaking the Cycle of Physical and
  • Emotional Abuse, Paul Hegstrom
  • Love Must Be Tough; New Hope for Marriages in Crisis, Dr. James Dobson
  • Hope for the Separated; Wounded Marriages Can Be Healed, Gary Chapman
  • Healing the Hurt in Your Marriage; Beyond discouragement, anger, and resentment to forgiveness, Dr. Gary and Barbara Rosberg
  • Surviving a Spiritual Mismatch, Les and Leslie Strobel
  • Spiritual Warfare in Marriage, Bill Stonebraker
  • When the Cradle is Empty: Answering Tough Questions About Infertility, John and Sylvia Van Regenmorter
  • See also resources under “Sexuality”

FAMILY MATTERS

  • Fantastic Families, Dr. Nick and Nancy Stinnett  Joe & Alice Beam
  • Boundaries With Kids, Cloud and Townsend

FAMILY FINANCES

  • Five Steps to Successful Money Management, Lee Davis
  • Financial Peace, Dave Ramsey
  • Storm Shelter, Protecting Your Personal Finances, Ron Blue
  • Taming the Money Monster, Ron Blue
  • No Debt No Sweat, Steve Diggs www.nodebtnosweat.com, (615) 834-3063
  • Debt-Proof Your Marriage and Debt-Proof Your Marriage Workbook, Mary Hunt

SEXUALITY

General Information

  • Too Close to the Flame: Recognizing and Avoiding Sexualized Relationships, Dr. Gregg Jantz
  • Sheet Music, Kevin Leman
  • The Book of Romance, What Solomon Says About Love, Sex and Intimacy, Tommy Nelson
  • The Sexual Man, Dr. Archibald Hart
  • Secrets of Eve, Understanding the Mystery of Female Sexuality, Dr. Archibald Hart, Dr. Catherine Hart Weber and Debra Taylor
  • Sex Begins in the Kitchen, Dr. Kevin Leman

Sexual Abuse in Childhood

  • See also resources under “Special Problems”
  • The Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse, Dr. Dan Allender
  • Allies In Healing: When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a Child, Laura Davis

Homosexuality

  • A Parent’s Guide to Preventing Homosexuality, Joseph Nicolosi
  • Coming Out of Homosexuality, Bob Davies and Lori Rentzel
  • Setting the Record Straight, Dr. Larry Burtoff
  • You Don’t Have to Be Gay, Jeff Konrad
  • Love Won Out, workshops and materials from Focus on the Family, 1-800-232-6459, www.family.org
  • Exodus International, www.exodusglobalalliance.org 1-888-246-0877
  • When Homosexuality Hits Home: What to do When A Loved One Says They’re Gay, Joe Dallas
  • Helping People Step Out of Homosexuality, Frank Worthen
  • National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality (NARTH), www.narth.com 1-818-789-4440

PORNOGRAPHY

  • See also resources under “Sex Addicts”
  • Don’t Call it Love: Recovery From Sexual Addiction, Patrick Carnes
  • The DRUG of the New Millennium, Mark Kastleman
  • Pure Desire, Ted Roberts
  • An Affair of the Mind, Laurie Hall
  • False Intimacy, Harry Schaumburg
  • Kids Online, Donna Rice Hughes
  • Faithful and True: Sexual Integrity in a Fallen World, Mark Laaser
  • Men Confront Pornography, Michael S. Kimmel
  • Every Man’s Battle and Every Young Man’s Battle, Stephen Arturburn
  • Every Woman’s Battle and Every Young Woman’s Battle, Shannon Ethridge
  • www.settingcaptivesfree.com, (330) 620-8448, (free 12 step internet interactive program for sexual and other addictions)
  • www.cyber-snoop.com, (800) 732-7596, (provides internet monitoring and filtering)
  • www.filterreview.com, (directory of internet servers that filter questionable material)
  • www.afafilter.com, (850) 362-4311, (internet server provided by American Family Association)
  • www.integrityonline.com, (866) 449-1736, (provides an internet server, or a filter on other servers)
  • www.safekids.com, (801) 596-3119, (provides rules and contracts for parents with children online)
  • www.familyconnect.com, (918) 524-1010, (internet protected server)
  • www.covenanteyes.com, (877) 479-1119, (provides internet accountability)

For Sex Addicts and Their Spouses

  • Out of the Shadows, Patrick Carnes
  • Don’t Call it Love: Recovery From Sexual Addiction, Patrick Carnes
  • Breaking Free: Understanding Sexual Addiction and The Healing Power Of Jesus, Russell Willingham and Bob Davies
  • Addicted to Love: Understanding Dependencies of the Heart, Romance, Relationships and Sex, Stephen Arterburn
  • www.pureintimacy.org, (Focus on the Family-sponsored resource for pornography addiction)
  • National Counsel on Sexual Addiction, (770) 989-9754
  • www.faithfulandtrueministries.com, (866) 408-5433, Mark Laaser and Life Ministries International (resources for recovery)
  • www.helpandhope.org, (888) 891-4673, Rob Jackson, (affiliated with Christian Alliance)
  • www.sa.org, (866) 424-8777 Sexaholics Anonymous
  • See also resources under “Pornography”
  • For a list of Christian Counselors on file in your area with the following organizations contact:
    • “Every Man’s Battle” workshops and resources from the New Life Ministries, (800) 639-5433 www.newlife.com 
    • Focus on the Family Counseling Center (719) 531-3400, www.family.org 

PARENTING

General Information

  • www.focusonyourchild.com, (800) 232-6459, resources from Focus on the Family
  • Parent’s Guide to the Spiritual Growth of Children, Focus on the Family
  • Money Matters (teaching children money management), Jim Weimann and Larry Burkett
  • A Parent’s Guide to Preventing Homosexuality, Joseph Nicolosi
  • Protecting Your Child in An X-Rated World, Frank York and Jan LaRue
  • How and When to Tell Your Kids About Sex, Stanton and Brenner James
  • Movie Nights for Kids: 25 Flicks to Inspire, Entertain and Teach Your Children, John Fornof
  • Keeping Your Kids Afloat When it Feels Like You’re Sinking, Cyndi Lamb Curry
  • Boundaries With Kids, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend
  • Answering the 8 Cries of the Spirited Child, David and Claudia Arp
  • Dare to Discipline, James Dobson
  • Hide or Seek, James Dobson
  • The Strong-willed Child, James Dobson
  • Bringing Up Boys, James Dobson
  • Setting Limits, Robert MacKenzie
  • Parenting with Love and Logic, Foster Cline and Jim Fay
  • Parenting Teens with Love and Logic, Foster Cline and Jim Fay
  • Bringing Kids Up without Tearing Them Down, Kevin Leman
  • Behavior Management At Home: A Token Economy Program for Children and Teens, Harvy Parker
  • The Key to Your Child’s Heart, Gary Smalley
  • www.screenit.com, (provides reviews and content of movies)
  • www.pluggedinmag.com, (provides a lyrical breakdown of nearly 300 CDs released since 1998)

Parenting Children with Special Needs

  • You and Your ADD Child: How to Understand and Help Kids with Attention Deficient Disorder, Paul Warren
  • ADD Hyperactivity Workbook for Parents, Teachers, and Kids, Harvey Parker
  • The Attention Deficit Child, Grant Martin
  • Driven to Distraction (ADHD resource for children and adults), Edward Hallowell and John Riley
  • Why ADHD Doesn’t Mean Disaster, Dennis Swanberg, Dr. Walt Larimore, and Diane Passno
  • CHADD, (resources and support for children and adults with attention deficit disorder), (800) 233-4050
  • A Special Kind of Love: For Those Who Love Children With Special Needs, Susan Osborn and Janet Mitchell
  • Chronic Kids, Constant Hope: Help and Encouragement for Parents of Children with Chronic Conditions, Elizabeth Hoekstra and Mary Bradford
  • Facing Autism, Lynn M. Hamilton
  • Adolescence Isn’t Terminal, Dr. Kevin Leman
  • The Disconnected Generation: Saving Our Youth from Self-Destruction, Josh McDowell
  • Parenting Adolescents, Kevin Huggins
  • Parenting Teens With Love and Logic, Cline and Foster
  • Parents, Teens and Boundaries, Jane Bulestein
  • Movie Nights: 25 Movies to Spark Spiritual Discussions with Your Teen, Bob Smithouser
  • See also “General Information” under “Parenting”

Single Parenting

  • Financial Guide for the Single Parent, Larry Burkett
  • 365 Strategies for Positive Single Parenting, Susan Brown
  • Parenting Alone: Single Parents, Ramona Warren
  • Successful Single Parenting, Gary Richmond
  • The Single Dad’s Survival Guide, Mike Klumpp
  • Going It Alone: Meeting the Challenges of Being a Single Mom, Michelle Ho
  • From One Single Mother to Another, Sandra Aldrich
  • 101 Ways to Be a Long-Distance Super Dad … Or Mom, too!, George Newman
  • Resource: Focus on the Family, Colorado Springs, CO., (800) 232-6459
  • See also “General Information” under “Parenting”

Grandparents as Parents

  • Grandparents as Parents: A Survival Guide for Raising a Second Family, DeToledo and Brown
  • See also “General Information” under “Parenting”

Dealing with Troubled Children

  • Taming the Dragon in Your Child: Solutions for Breaking the Cycle of Family Anger, Meg Eastman
  • Parents in Pain: Overcoming the Hurt and Frustration of Problem Children, John White
  • Relief for Hurting Parents, Buddy Scott
  • Pills for Parents in Pain, Lee Ezell
  • Get Out of My Life, Anthony Wolf
  • Why Christian Kids Rebel: Trading Heartache for Hope, Tim Rimmel
  • You Can’t Make Me, Cynthia Tobias
  • When Your Child Has Been Molested: A Parent’s Guide to Healing and Recovery, Kathryn Brohl and Joyce Case Potter
  • What Children Need to Know When Parents Divorce, William Coleman
  • Helping Children Survive Divorce: What to Expect, How to Help, Archibald Hart
  • Growing Up With Divorce, Helping Your Child Avoid Immediate and Later Emotional Problems, Neil Kalter
  • See also “General Information” under “Parenting”

Step-Parenting

  • Resource: www.successfulstepfamilies.com
  • The Smart Stepfamily, Ron Deal
  • Resource: Step Family Association of America, (800) 735-0329
  • Step by Step-Parenting, James Eckler
  • Making it as a Stepparent, Claire Berman
  • 52 Ways to be a Better Step-Parent, O’Conner & Flowers
  • You’re a Stepparent … Now What? Joseph Cerquone
  • Winning the Heart of Your Stepchild, Bob Barnes
  • God Sets the Lonely in Families, www.godblendsfamilies.org

ADDITIONAL CHALLENGES

Adult ADD / ADHD

  • Driven to Distraction, (ADHD for children and adults), Edward Hallowell and John Riley
  • Healing ADD: Simple Exercises That Will Change Your Daily Life, Thorn Hartman
  • CHADD, (resources and support for children and adults with attention deficit disorder), (800) 233-4050

Anger

  • Angry Men and the Women Who Love Them: Breaking the Cycle of Physical and Emotional Abuse, Paul Hegstrom
  • Taming the Dragon in Your Child: Solutions for Breaking the Cycle of Family Anger, Meg Eastman
  • Getting the Best of Your Anger, Les Carter
  • The Anger Workbook, (to accompany the above book), Les Carter
  • Make Anger Your Ally, Neil Clark Warren

Coping with Aging Parents

  • As Parents Age: A Psychological and Practical Guide, Joseph Ilardo
  • How to Care for Aging Parents, Virginia Morris and Robert Butler
  • Caring for Your Aging Parents: A Sourcebook of Options and Solutions for Both Generations, Helene MacLean
  • Caring for Yourself While Caring for Your Aging Parents: How to Help, How to Survive, Claire Berman
  • Are Your Parents Driving You Crazy?, Joseph Ilardo and Carole Rothman
  • Complete Guide to Caring for Aging Loved Ones, Betty Free

Depression

  • New Light on Depression: Help. Hope, & Answers for the Depressed & Those Who Love Them, David Biebel and Harold Koenig
  • The Freedom from Depression Workbook, Dr. Les Carter, Dr. Frank Minirth
  • The Feeling Good Handbook (self help for depression), David Burns
  • Unmasking Male Despression: Recognizing the Root Cause to Many Problems
  • Behaviors Such As Anger, Resentment, Abusiveness, Silence, Addictions and
  • Sexual Compulsiveness, Dr. Archibald Hart
  • Unveiling Depression in Women: A Practical Guide to Understanding and Overcoming Depression, Drs. Archibald Hart and Catherine Hart Weber
  • Resources for Attacking Anxiety and Depression: Midwest Center for Stress and Anxiety, Inc., www.stresscenter.com (800) 611-5485

Divorce

  • When the Vow Breaks, Warren Kniskern
  • The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce: A 25-year Landmark Study, Judith Wallerstein
  • When He Leaves, Kari West and Noelle Quinn
  • The Divorce Recovery Guide, A. Treeson, Mary Hollingsworth, and Michael Washburn
  • Single Again, The Uncertain Journey, Jim Smoke
  • Helping Children Survive Divorce: What to Expect, How to Help, Archibald Hart
  • Growing Up With Divorce, Helping Your Child Avoid Immediate and Later Emotional Problems, Neil Kalter
  • What Children Need to Know When Parents Divorce, William Coleman

For Someone Terminally Ill

  • The Journey Home: Finishing With Joy, Bill Bright
  • Living Fully in the Shadow of Death, Susan Zonnebelt-Smeenge and Robert DeVries
  • When Your World Falls Apart, David Jeremiah
  • A Bend in the Road, David Jeremiah
  • Packing for the Big Trip, Charlie Walton

Grief

  • A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows Through Loss, Gerald Sittser
  • Yet Will I Trust Him: Understanding God in a Suffering World, John Mark Hicks
  • Beyond the Storm, Dr. Jerry Jones
  • When there are no Words, Charlie Walton
  • A Grief Observed, C. S. Lewis
  • Hiding From Love: Learning to Feel and Serve Again, Dr. John Townsend
  • When Children Grieve, John James and Russell Friedman
  • www.griefshare.org

In-Laws

  • The Mother-in-Law Dance: Can Two Women Love the Same Man and Still Get Along?, Annie Chapman
  • Toxic In-Laws: Loving Strategies for Protecting Your Marriage, Susan Forward
  • Loving Your Relatives: Even When You Don’t See Eye to Eye, David and Claudia Arp, and John and Margaret Bell
  • Inlaws. Outlaws and the Functional Family: A Real-World Guide to Resolving Family Issues, Harry Jackson

Issues from Youth

  • Addicted to Love: Understanding Dependencies of the Heart, Romance, Relationships and Sex, Stephen Arterburn
  • Released From Shame: Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families, Sandra Wilson
  • Adult Children: The Secrets of Dysfunctional Families, John and Linda Friel
  • The Healing Journey for Adult Children of Alcoholics, Daryl Quick
  • Changes That Heal: How to Understand Your Past to a Healthier Future, Dr. Henry Cloud
  • Broken Children, Grown-up Pain; Understanding the Effects of Your Wounded Past, Paul Hegstrom
  • Love is a Choice: Recovery for Codependent Relationships, Dr. Frank Minirth, Dr. Paul Meier, and Dr. Robert Hemfelt
  • The Freedom from Depression Workbook, Dr. Les Carter and Dr. Frank Minirth
  • The Feeling Good Handbook (self help for depression), David Burns
  • Love Hunger, Weight Loss Workbook, Dr. Frank Minirth and Dr. Paul Meier
  • Resources for Attacking Anxiety and Depression: Midwest Center for Stress and Anxiety, Inc., www.stresscenter.com (800) 611-5485

Singleness

  • God’s Call to the Single Adult, Mike Cavanaugh
  • Your Single Treasure: The Good News About Singles and Sexuality, Rick Stedman
  • No Sex Please (Until We’re Married): The No-Compromise Search for the Love of Your Life, Ian Gregory
  • Believing God For His Best: How to Marry Contentment and Singleness, Bill Thrasher
  • Living Single: The Different Faces of Singleness, Kevin Smith
  • Singleness: A Strategy for Emotional Peace

 

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